Astrology Explored

November 6, 2007

Question: Someone did my chart years ago. She told me that I would never have a committed long-term relationship and that I would just be bouncing from one woman to another all my life. This was very bad news to me. I’ve always wanted to settle down with one woman and have a family. In fact there’s nothing I want more in life. But it hasn’t happened yet.

Birth date: 12/27/1960, birthplace: LAT 37N42 LONG 97W20, Birth time: 12:30 PM CST

Answer: Believe me, after looking at your chart, I can safely say that that person did not know what they were talking about.

There is nothing in your chart that says you’ll bounce from relationship to relationship. It is true that you have Venus in Aquarius opposite the planet of change and individuality, Uranus, but its placement, in a weak succedent house, means that it is not a driver of your personality. It means that you like strong, independent and smart women. You also tend to meet women like this in connections with groups and organizations.

With four planets in Capricorn, Sun, Mercury, Jupiter and Saturn at the top of your chart, in harmonious aspect with your Moon in Taurus and with power broker Pluto you are the soul of stability. But with all those planets in Capricorn, you also tend to think that you don’t measure up, that you have some deficiency that keeps you from deserving the better things in life. You Capricorns think you need the Mercedes in the driveway of the million-dollar home before you deserve a relationship. You tend to do things on your own and it doesn’t occur to you that the right partner will help you to achieve your goals.

Capricorns tend to do things backwards from other people. While most people marry when they are younger, Capricorns often marry when they are older. Now here is the thing, like any other Capricorn, you are going to have to make marriage the goal and then go after it. Capricorns, believe it or not, have a finely honed romantic sense and tend to believe almost as much as their Pisces friends that “the right girl” will come along and sweep them off their feet. This is because Capricorns are afraid of their own judgment when it comes to matters of the heart and want circumstances to override their own good sense. Do you see what you do to yourself here? When people tell me stuff like this I remind them that even people in prison get married, so love and the rest of it, isn’t dependent on how worthy you are.

With Libra sitting on the doorway of the seventh house, there is nothing more than you want than a partner. Not only does she have to be strong, smart, and independent, with Libra on the doorway of the seventh house, she needs to be beautiful and with Cancer sitting at the doorway of your fourth house or the home, she needs to be able to cook and keep a home too.

But whom do you choose to associate with? With your moon opposite Neptune, the wrong kind of woman. She doesn’t just have a fatal flaw, she’s totally flawed. This is a diversion anyway. It keeps you from looking at what really keeps you from finding a sustaining relationship.

You are due for a radical change in your attitudes about love and marriage, which is going to be delivered by the old change agent himself, Pluto as that planet comes to visit your stellium of planets at the top your chart and which is going to be with your through your second Saturn return at age 59. With the planet of long-term relationships, Saturn, coming to the doorway of your seventh house of partnerships in the fall of 2010, there is every chance you’ll end up in a committed relationship. Through the holiday season this year you have the opportunity to meet several women so at least you’ll have an interesting holiday season.

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