Astrology Explored

December 17, 2008

Dear Beth,
Hello my DOB is 05/18/86 and i was born in Porto – Portugal at 5 pm. I never was in a serious relationship with a guy and im a very shy person so it’s difficult for me to find someone. My question is when will my love life improve and if u see marriage and maybe kids in my chart?
Thanks

Dear Shy,

Your chart is very unusual as it contains both a Grand Cross and a Grand Trine. Grand Trines are usually considered very lucky aspects and Grand Crosses talk about difficulties, but in your case I think the Grand Trine is not helping you at all and your Grand Cross may your source of greatest strength.

You have the following planets in these zodiac signs:
Sun 27 Taurus 24
Moon 17 Virgo 07
Mercury 22 Taurus 06
Venus 26 Gemini 30
Mars 20 Capricorn 28
Jupiter 18 Pisces 20
Saturn 07 Sagittarius 06 R
Uranus 21 Sagittarius 19 R
Neptune 05 Capricorn 22 R
Pluto 05 Scorpio 21 R
Chiron 13 Gemini 38
Pallas 29 Cancer 26
Juno 11 Sagittarius 34 R
Ceres 05 Virgo 47

A full astrology reading is beyond the scope of this column. However, there are a few issues you need to work through to get to your goal of love and marriage.

My first impression when I looked at your chart was that you are a person grew up in a overprotective atmosphere. Your Sun in the zodiac sign of Taurus is opposite Saturn, which usually indicates a restrictive upbringing, “for your own good”. It is an out of sign opposition, which weakens the effect, but you did experience a childhood where girls’ behavior was closely monitored, and your brother experienced greater freedom of movement. You were enjoined and praised for being a “good girl”, which I am sure you were. But being a “good girl” also denied you avenues of personal growth. For one thing, despite Pluto running over your Uranus/Venus opposition, which is a cry for personal freedom in your chart, you are still looking for the traditional avenues of personal fulfillment, love and marriage. Perhaps all you’ve gotten out of this transit is a sense that you are “different” from other girls, but nothing can be further from the truth.

An important planet for you is Chiron which sits at the top of your chart, one of four points in a Grand Cross in mutable signs. Chiron talks about a wound that is difficult to heal. It manifests in conditions that cause us emotion pain. A Grand Cross in Mutable signs calls for adaptability in face of changing conditions. One effect of a Grand Cross is that when one point of the Cross is activated, the energy zings around the chart affecting other other parts of your life. For you this effects your health, the health of other people around you, your higher ideals and communications you receive. One would surmise from such a Cross that you are often expected to care for the health of a family member, most likely your mother or another female relative, which is a cause of the restrictions in your life. Your pain is that these restrictions are making it difficult for you to live your own life.

Your Grand Trine does not help you in that it allows you to acquiesce to the demands of others. It also feeds what some have called the Cinderella Complex. Cinderella does everything she is supposed to do, despite hardships, and she is rewarded by magically being allowed to go to ball, being swept away into the arms of Prince Charming and eventually living happily ever after. But life is not a fairy tale, and if we want something to happen, we need to make it happen. You aren’t Cinderella and Prince Charming crept off a long time ago with some of the help.

Both Chiron and Neptune in the sky right now are making long slow transits of your fifth house of romance churning up your romantic desires to be swept away from your life as it is right now. Neptune feeds overly romantic thoughts, and Chiron makes you painfully aware of what you don’t have. You are not seeing the issue clearly, and this you need to work on.

First you need to separate your needs from that of your family. As long as you allow them to do so, they will continue rely on you to be a caretaker. You are in your twenties now and it is well past time to leave the nest. If you have not pursued an education, you should do so. If you have, go back for a master’s or doctorate degree, away from home, anyplace where you can live on your own and experience life without the well intentioned interference of your family. Only until you discover who you really are, what you really need, will you be in full control of your choices, including, who to marry and when to have children.

Good luck.

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